About Control

About Control

Our need to control ourselves and others is a learned response to fear. Emotions trigger chemical chain reactions in our bodies to prepare us for specific actions. When these actions work out, meaning they help us survive or improve our situation, our brain remembers...
Limiting Beliefs

Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs are thoughts that hold us back. Every thought we think triggers an emotion. Over time, repetition turns the thought into a belief. You might also call it a truth or a fact, meaning an idea you do not question. The same thought triggers the same...
Emotions Create Reality

Emotions Create Reality

Our emotions influence how we see the world and other people, what we notice, remember and think. They create our reality by giving meaning to every event we experience. With extreme emotions, like fear, we are often aware of this effect. When I had anxiety, every...
About Crying

About Crying

Crying is an expression of strong emotions. We can burst into tears when we feel hopeless or sad but also when we are overcome with joy. It lessens stress and pain. Shedding tears is also a very special skill because we are literally born with it. Unlike other...
How Emotions and Feelings Become Habits

How Emotions and Feelings Become Habits

You are driving your car and need to change lanes. Do you have to think about signaling, checking the mirrors and maybe changing gear? I bet your movements flow so smoothly you hardly notice them at all. Why? Because after enough repetition the act became automatic....
About Fear

About Fear

Fear is nothing to be afraid of. It is an emotion. One of the strongest emotions we have because it keeps us safe. But what exactly happens when we are afraid? Why are so many people more scared every day? And what can we do to minimise the consequences of fear?...
Negativity Bias

Negativity Bias

Ever wondered why it is so difficult to stay positive these days no matter how many resolutions you make? It’s not you. It’s them. Our societies have a decided negativity bias. The day started well. I jumped out of bed, hummed a tune in the bathroom and...
About Stress

About Stress

Stress has been called anything from a “silent killer” to useful. There are books, courses, research papers and a lot of blog posts on the topic. So why am I adding to the pile? Because looking at stress from the angle of emotions might help you cope with...
Am I Too Emotional?

Am I Too Emotional?

Do you think of yourself as “too emotional”? Just occasionally or is it how you introduce yourself at parties? Have others labelled you with those words and now you’re trying your best not to live up to them? Is there even such a thing as being too...
About Triggers

About Triggers

Triggers are events that set off an emotion. This process is perfectly normal. Emotions are part of our biochemistry and are supposed to make our lives easier. When bad habits and traumatic events hijack the system though, events turn into triggers that make us feel...
About Anger

About Anger

Most people would call anger a negative emotion. Maybe even a dangerous one. Anger can be overwhelming, scary and unhealthy if you experience it too often. There’s nothing good about it, is there? At best, it’s a waste of energy, right? Allow me to...