About Anger
Most people would call anger a negative emotion. Maybe even a dangerous one. Anger can be overwhelming, scary and unhealthy if you experience it too often. There’s nothing good about it, is there? At best, it’s a waste of energy, right? Allow me to...
About Joy
Just google “joy” and you’ll find plenty of books, research and even speeches about the subject. But joy is just bite-sized happiness. Why not go for happiness in the first place? Why do some people prefer to aim for joy? Lessons from the past From...
About Happiness
What is there to say about happiness? We love it! We strive for it and miss it when it’s gone. We wait whistfully for it’s return or buy stuff/repeat actions/cling to people who made us happy in the past to get the emotion back. While clinging to things...
About Frustration
I don’t know about you but for me frustration is ont he negative side of emotions. Frustration makes us feel tense. We breathe quickly or even not at all, because we hold our breath. And if frustration lasts for more than a few minutes, it becomes really…...
About Overwhelm
So much to do today! First, I’ll put on the laundry. I also need to write my next post while it’s on. Then to the market. (Dangerously low on veggies!) What do I want to cook tonight? Can’t have pizza every night. But that’s dinner and I’m getting...
About Shame
In their book Conscious Luck Gay Hendricks and Carol Kline differentiate between guilt and shame: We feel guilt about actions we take, “mistakes” we make, or missed opportunities, but we feel shame when we believe that there is something inherently wrong with us. We...
About Anxiety
A few years ago, I had crippling anxiety. Some days I couldn’t get out of bed with fear and worry. I had panic attacks and broke out in sweat and tears at the thought of going outside. I’m fine now. How did I get to this stage? By accident, actually. I tried to...
Life Skills
Emotional Intelligence skills are life skills: Self-awareness, emotional hygiene, recognising other people’s emotions and feelings, motivating yourself and managing emotions in others are life skills. But what does that mean? Life Skills Improve Your Life That’s the...
What is Emotional Hygiene?
Emotional hygiene techniques are daily habits that help your body regulate the chemical chain reactions triggered by emotions. They keep you grounded, reduce stress and prevent overwhelming emotions. I learned the term from Brad Yates and it is brilliant because it...
Pent-Up Emotions
You’ve tried one (or even all – kudos!) of the emotional hygiene techniques. You get it. Emotional hygiene really is important. You did the Yoga and tapped away and even spent an entire hour with your frustration but it’s still there! Why doesn’t it work for you? It...